Wardrobe Building: A Foundation of Physical and Emotional Comfort

“To be a fashionable woman is to know yourself, know what you represent, and know what works for you. To be ‘in fashion’ could be a disaster on 90% of women. You are not a page out of Vogue.”-Author Unknown

Shopping for plus size women can be either exhausting or exhilarating – the choice is yours. To make it fun and productive, I suggest three things:

• Develop a Pretty Party Portfolio
• Inventory your closet ruthlessly
• Develop a shopping plan

A Pretty Party Portfolio is a plastic accordion envelope with 12 compartments. This becomes the place where you identify and organize your wish list. Each time you come across something that intrigues you from a magazine or catalog, cut it out and put it in the correct section (tops, bottoms, dresses, jackets, footwear, jewelry, handbags, etc.). While you may not purchase the specific item you’ve identified, often you can replicate the style or feature that is appealing in an item that is appropriate for you. This is how you inform and inspire yourself before shopping, and get real bang for your buck!

Next, inventory your closet. If you haven’t worn it in a year or more, repair, donate or trash it. If an item is attractive but not right for you for any reason, physical or emotional, let it go, make room for the things you love and will wear. I’ve heard it said that women do NOT wear between 70-80% of what’s in their closet.

From what remains in your closet, put together several outfits, carefully identify a shopping plan based on what is missing to make the outfit complete and in ready-to-walk-out-the-door condition. Start a list or use the Essential Inventory Card, shown here and referred to in my book, Pretty Plus. You need at least two go-to outfits for every occasion of your lifestyle. This is the beginning of developing a shopping plan and building a wardrobe that works for YOU!

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My fashion wants and needs are…

Babe

Body Frames: A Balancing Act

The inimitable Coco Chanel said “Fashion is architecture: it’s a matter of proportions,” so while my size (and budget) bars Chanel labels from my closet; Chanel wisdom thrives there. Proportion is about understanding your body frame, leading to my concept of Fade and Focus which will help you pick flattering, fashionable items every time you shop.

Your frame is the basic shape of your body, the size of one body part compared to others, regardless of how much you weigh. Did you know that your body frame can be likened to the shape of a diamond? So, why not call yourself, “a round diamond?” I do.

Pear Shape Diamond

Smaller through the arms, shoulders and breasts, however, has wider hips, tush, thighs and calves.

Balance wide hips by inserting a small shoulder pad your top.

Heart Shape Diamond

Broad and full through the arms, shoulders and ribcage, however, narrows through the hips, thighs, and legs.

Use dark, muted colors on top and bold shades or patterns on the bottom.

Marquise Shape Diamond

Thinner arms, shoulders, hips, tush and legs, however, has a full tummy.

Wear tops that are fitted through the arms and shoulders and fall into an A-line - interesting patterns through the tummy can actually distract from puffiness.

Round Shape Diamond

Round and full through the arms, shoulders, back, tummy, hips and thighs, however, has a noticeable waist and shapely legs. If you’re confused about which diamond shape you are – if you’re curvy but proportionate - and have a waist, this is your frame.

Wear dresses and skirts that hit the bottom of your knee to show off shapely legs.

Emerald Shape Diamond

Wide and full from the shoulders and arms through the hips, thighs and legs and has no appreciable indentation at the waist. If you’re confused about your frame – and you’re proportionate but straight up and down, this is your frame.

Wear items that that have gentle curvy lines embedded through cut or pattern.

Stop hiding behind your clothes. Wear sleeker items where you can to promote a shapely, smart silhouette. Not being aware of your shape causes the biggest mistakes and wastes money. Knowing which diamond you are, however, is the beginning of manufacturing the silhouette you seek, consistently.

If you’re still unsure, Ask Babe…”Am I a marquise or a round shape diamond?”

Send in photos of yourself, which I’ll post on the site to help you and others determine your diamond, and I’ll suggest some styles that will complement too!

Babe

GIVE-AWAY! What I Look For In An Anchor Piece

ULLA POPKEN IS GIVING AWAY ONE OF THE ANCHOR PIECES HIGHLIGHTED BELOW TO THE FIRST 10 LADIES TO RESPOND TO THIS POST!

I love this pink jacket! This jacket is a great example of an anchor piece, it is also what I call a go-to item, and they often overlap.

I look for three things in an anchor piece:

1. It has the muscle to be the backbone of many outfits, and can reach across the different facets of my lifestyle: casual, career and special occasion.
2. It is a go-to item, it flatters every time.
3. Its coloration and fabrication make it easy to identify the right accessories.

Here’s why the Sparkle Stretch Knit Jacket, which I’m wearing in this video, works for me.

1. It has the muscle to work with one of my three signature looks: the long, uninterrupted column of black underneath (tank top and skirt or slacks,) giving me casual, career and dressy options. It will also work with a white lace tank top and jeans.
2. It is cut well and the fabric drapes lean but doesn’t cling: flattering princess seaming, vertical lines of detail (seams and buttons) both of which are emphasized by leaving the jacket partially open.
3. The fabric is shot with a gold metallic thread so I know that gold jewelry will accessorize well and the pink color flows right into the coordinating print floral scarf, which together, polish the outfit.

An anchor piece doesn’t have to be a jacket, but let’s consider these top pieces for now, each one could be a go-to item:

• Shawl Collar Matte Jersey Jacket

• Animal Print Jacket

• Sheer Abstract Color Tunic Duster

• Stone Detail Stretch Top

The GIVE-AWAY!

Ulla Popken is pleased to give away your choice of one of these items to the first ten bloggers to respond to babehope1@gmail.com. All we ask in return, is you review the product and share your review within 30 days. It's that simple. Reviews should be sent to babehope1@gmail.com. We'll post the reviews on Talking It U.P.

In the meantime, we'd love to hear from you. Please post what you look for in an anchor piece or any questions you may have regarding this topic.

Babe

Strategic Black and Other Comfort Zones

Imagine standing in front of your closet still half asleep and instinctively knowing what to reach for, when you need an outfit that will make you feel pretty and confident in a snap. Reach for strategic black: You know this outfit will work every time – that’s what I call a comfort zone!

Strategic Black requires that you know yourself. What part of your body do you want to accentuate and what part do you want to minimize? Strategic Black, using black (or deep muted) coloration in a flat matte jersey (or similar fabrication) to minimize AND bursts of color or interest (within the garment, outfit or accessories) to focus attention. If it’s all black, it may be spectacular, but it’s not “strategic” - every wardrobe has room for both!

Especially after the holidays, life is just easier when you have identified at least two strategic black outfits for each occasion of your lifestyle – casual, career and special occasion. There should never be a time when you feel frustrated because you have “nothing to wear.” Here are a few easy examples of strategic black:

Strategic Black within the Outfit:

• Matte Jersey Straight Leg Pants (Choose the slacks to create a sleeker lower half.)
  

Strategic Black within the Item:

• Water Stripe Stretch Tie-Dye Hoodie Outfit (Choose the hoodie to elongate and trim upper torso.)

• Embroidered Stretch Knit Dress (Choose this dress to emphasize a waist and soften puffy arms and hips.)

• Ikat Colorblock Knit Dress (Choose this dress to create balance between a large bust and arms and a smaller lower half.)

• Moody Blue Batik Tunic (Choose this tunic to draw attention to the neckline and chest and soften a larger tummy, hips and thighs.)

Strategic Black Questions answered here!!

Using Strategic Black is the beginning of understanding your body frame and how to achieve the illusion of balance and harmony. If you have questions about how to make Strategic Black work for you, all you have to do is ask!

Babe

New Year's Resolutions: Silence the Hungry Heart

My relationship with food caused the metaphor "didn't fit in" to become my literal truth, pushing me to the outskirts of certain social circles, including fashion circles. Food became my knee-jerk reaction to everything: celebration, sorrow, boredom and friendship. Each new January, for more than I care to count, I would resolve to lose weight...and falter within days (if not hours).

I'm not sure what I was afraid of - life or living it plus size - I thought dieting was the answer to everything. Then life dealt me three awakenings and I learned the only thing I had feared was fear itself.

A diet was not the answer for me. I decided to make fashion fun and to make its accoutrements work for me. I decided to stop the pity party and launch a pretty party. I identified one area in particular that detracted from my overall appearance and turned it into my star-quality signature. I'll reveal that and my three awakenings to you in time, as we get to know each other better.

I've learned that there is no enemy. Today my New Year's resolutions focus on nurturing those I love and me as well.

I'd love to hear your New Year's resolutions especially those that nurture and encourage. Please share them. Girlfriends, the days of starving to fit in are over!

Babe

Who Is Babe Hope?

I'm Babe Hope, the author of Pretty Plus: How To Look Sexy, Sensational and Successful No Matter What You Weigh. I'm also a stylist and personal shopper for women of all ages and shapes. My goal is to help women look their personal best. I love to empower women with tools to help turn their pity party into a pretty party! This is the message of "Talking It U.P." which I am so very happy to assume the helm of today!

A big problem women who wear plus sizes have is that much of the available fashion advice comes from fashion editors who live on tofu and lettuce leaves and therefore can't understand the angst and challenge of being a large woman. I get it because I face the same mirror you do, daily. I am a large, beautiful woman.

It wasn't always that simple for me. I haven't always felt beautiful. I weighed over 200 pounds when I graduated from high school. I've been on every diet. Decades later, I'm disappointed that I invested my energy and resources in diets instead of self-acceptance and in the sheer joy of a plus size pretty party. The opportunity was there, but I couldn't embrace it. Yet it is precisely that journey that led me to where I am today.

I'm excited to start this new year with you and Talking It U.P. Stick with me and I'll share all the secrets I've learned along the way.

A New Year's toast then to us, Girlfriends...The pity party was yesterday. Today we launch the pretty party!

Babe

Fall into Great Fashion!

All the signs are there, seeing big yellow school buses on the roads, pools preparing to close, and every once in a while a breeze of cool air comes our way. We all have to admit it; fall is on its way. Living on the east coast, we show a sign of each season, and as much as I love summer, by the time fall rolls around I am ready to welcome it. It is a nice change to wear long sleeve tee's and feel comfortable in pants. The temperature is still warm enough to wear sandals and flip flops, but enough of an evening breeze that you can comfortably wear a light jacket. You also can't help but be interesed in the new clothes that come out for fall, especially if you are the type of person who loves to see new styles and trends!

As we prepare for another change in season, remember, there is a bright-side to the end of summer, you get to go shopping!

Item #05525, Organic Flounce Jacket pictured in Spruce

Shoes, Shoes, Shoes!

What girl doesn't love shoes? We have worked long and hard to find the perfect shoes and boots to offer our customers. We have taken your comments, throughts and requests into consideration when planning our new line of shoes. Ulla has the best buyer in shoes, Joe, working for you. We think we have a pretty good selection to start you off with, trust us, because Joe knows shoes.

Check them out; we dare you to not love them!

Don't Forget to Cover Up!

So you're heading to the beach, let's review the checklist:

Sunglasses, check!
SPF, check!
Tropical Drink, check!
Magazine, check!

Now the only other thing you need to go great with your fantastic Ulla Popken bathing suit is a perfect cover up. Have you checked out our selection? We have the style for any preference. Need to get out of the sun? Try our Cotton Gauze Caftan, #02291. Do you want to cover up, but still get some sun on your shoulders and arms? You need our Knit Flounce Cover Up, #02598 (pictured). Want to show off a sexy suit? Try our Shimmer Lace Duster, #02454.

Come see Ulla's great selection of beachwear! Now your checklist is finally complete!

Celebrate, With Savings!

Once Memorial Day rolls around we see an increase in outdoor events, cookouts and parties. For some this holiday marks the beginning of summer, and days of leisure. If you haven't already, you may want to break out the shorts and tank tops, and make some fresh lemonade. When you have had your fill of being outside enjoying nice weather (we hope!) and gatherings with friends and family, remember you can snag some great Ulla items without even leaving the comfort of your own home!

We will be available to take calls this coming holiday weekend everyday from 8am-12am EST and of course, you can shop at any time you would like online! We look forward to hearing from you.

Have a great Memorial Day.

It's all in the Signs!

Thinking of myself as having a goodwill personality and carefree nature i have found myself using the phrase "it's a sign" more and more. To some it's a hopeful way of thinking everything will work out for them, or that the stars are somehow aligning to perfectly meet with ones needs. To others it is a way of looking on the bright side of life. After all, you will notice the more often you have a positive outlook the better you will feel. You will also notice more and more people are naturally attracted to a positive attitude!

I am by no means a motivations speaker, but I encourage you all to acknowledge the many 'signs' life throws our way!

You Be the Judge!

You may have noticed the 'Customer Favorites' section of our webpage, this is where we take a very careful look at the buying activity of each seasons items. The garments that show to be most popular with our customers will be in that category. If you are new to Ulla check out this section first, you will get a good idea of our items and selection. This is also a great starting point when you just aren't quite sure what type of look you are going for. There is a huge selection of our most prized items in our customer favorites, be sure to check it out!

Here is your chance- what is your favorite Ulla item? Why do you love it?

Red Carpet Glam!

If you watched the Golden Globes last week the main focus, as always, was the attire of the guests. Inevitably the following few days are filled with best and worst dressed lists, and who’s wearing who. Have you ever noticed that the best dressed list always includes an elegant, flowing dress? We certainly have, which is why we are pleased to bring back a customer favorite. The Goddess Dress #91282, available in both black and chocolate. (shown in chocolate)

Everyone needs a special occasion dress that will compliment your style. So try our Goddess Dress, with a perfectly graceful silhouette which flatters any body shape, this is sure to be a crowd pleaser!

Happy Holiday Wishes!

The holiday season is upon us, now is the time to make your way out to the stores or shop online to find the perfect gift for friends and family. In this season of giving and special gatherings don’t forget this is also the perfect time to give- to yourself! Ulla Popken has many special occasion outfits that are sure to get you noticed, and wont go over your holiday budget.

Check out our Matte Jersey Tiered Swing Dress #95206, this stunning (and affordable) dress is perfect for every upcoming holiday event! Paired with the perfect pair of shoes and jewelry this dress will surely be a wardrobe favorite! Check out all our fabulous occasion wear under the Winter Occasion tab.